Catherine Newman's new column addresses a subject I've been thinking a lot and worrying a little about recently: Gigi's second-ness. It's so far hard to see if she's being positively or negatively affected by being the second kid (for every sibling's birthday party she spends in a high chair, far from the action, there are ten meals she starts first because her baby tummy can't wait any longer), but I do feel a vague sense of hands-offedness with her. Will I spend even half as mnay hours with Gigi as she crawls around the living room or clambers around the playground equipment as I did with Julia? Probably not, because virtually every minute I'm spending with G. is also a minute spent with J. But on the other hand, it sure seems that Gigi is built on a different mental chassis: I looked up from the sink the other morning after realizing that I hadn't heard her in a few minutes, only to find her sitting in front of a basket of toys, calmly and methodically pulling a doll out onto her lap. It was hard, time-consuming, so she was concentrating.